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Updated: 12/2/2021 | Embracing My Gray Hair Transition

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One day my aunts gathered around the dining table and talked about their graying hair. They told me that I would also start to go gray around my mid 20’s. Like any invincible young adult, I contested and said “Not me! That could never happen to me!”

And then it happened. I began graying around 26 years old. It started with a few white hairs here and there. My friends would help pluck them out. There’s an old Asian adage that says if you pluck one white hair out, two will grow in its place. I didn’t realize my hairs were actually going to rebel against me and my race against time.

So I began to dye my hair. I remember learning to dye hair as a child. I would blend the hair dye then apply it to my aunt’s roots. It took two boxes to dye her long mane. I was experienced by the time it was my turn. I dyed my hair out of embarrassment of looking old.

Fast forward to 32, I decided to let my grays grow. I looked into natural dye options but I would still be applying it more than I wanted to. I began my gray hair transitioning journey in June of 2017. At first the transition was awful. I looked unkempt and many people stated that “my hair looked too old for my face.” Regardless of all these comments, I decided to embrace my grays 110%. I figure if I did not like it, that I could dye it again.

Check Out My going grey progression

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What 3 months of not dyeing my gray hair looks like.
What 4 months of not dyeing my gray hair looks like.
What 4 months of not dyeing my gray hair looks like.
What 7 months of not dyeing my gray hair looks like.
What 7 months of not dyeing my gray hair looks like.
What 8 months of not dyeing my gray hair looks like.
What 8 months of not dyeing my gray hair looks like.
What 9 months of not dyeing my gray hair looks like.
What 9 months of not dyeing my gray hair looks like.
What 11 months of not dyeing my gray hair looks like.
What 11 months of not dyeing my gray hair looks like.


What 9 months of not dyeing my gray hair looks like.
What 12 months of not dyeing my gray hair looks like. I also straightened my wavy hair. Happy one year anniversary!

At 18 months!

3 years gray and dye-free! I was also featured on Grombre’s Instagram Account!!!! Go read my message about going gray!

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My white hair looks awesome against the black sand beach Papakolea on the Big Island of Hawaii.

Walking away from negativity with gray hair. That’s possible too!

If you’re currently dealing with a narc and looking to build the courage to walk away, read my narc abuse story.

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Here is a how it started versus how it’s going post. My hair was fully grown out at 18 months.
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Taking my silver hair to Naxos, Greece!

Why I Dyed My Hair

I dyed my hair to look youthful. I was in a race against time. It was also due to societal pressures about what beauty should look like. As I get older, I have become more concerned with how beauty should feel like. I’ve mostly ditched makeup and the only “cosmetic” procedure I’ve done was eyebrow microblading (read about my microblading experience) because the extent of me wearing makeup is only if I don’t have to re-apply it over and over.

I’ve also been blessed with living next to an amazing hairdresser who constantly cares for me and my hair. He even colored it with organic, add water only dyes from Thailand. As quick as the dye went on, my hair kept returning to white even quicker. I could see the real me coming out of my hair follicles.

One day I had the epiphany that I should become this person whom I was destined to grow into. Isn’t that novel? My white hairs were getting more aggressive and it was only time before they would win.

It was also around the time that platinum gray hair was becoming a trend. Everyone was doing it. What an opportune time to grow into the real Alex. And the best part? My grey hair would be FREE!

So began my boycott against hair dyes and anything that would change the course of who I was to become. Embracing my grays has been both exhilarating and challenging. It’s been a year now since I decided to ditch the dye.

Why I Stopped Dying My Hair

Here’s what I’ve learned through that process:

#1 To Have more Time and Money

I’ve regained so much time and money! It takes 1.5 hours to dye my hair and about $10 (if I self-remedy) or $60 if it’s professionally done. Oftentimes the color doesn’t stick (due to grey hair lacking cuticle that allows for color retention) and I’m stuck with a dark gray tinge. FYI: Dyes will not work well on grey hair. 

No matter what dyes I use, the color doesn’t stick as well as when I still had melanin in my hair. After a dye job, no one else sees my white hair trying to fight back unless they’re looking closely. I have often gone in for TWO applications to cover my grays, doubling the cost.

At the rate my grey hair is growing, I’d rather just save my money and time for vacations! So a big THANK YOU to my gray hair!

#2 To Become More Me

Growing Into the REAL you is a step towards acceptance of not only yourself but of also many other aspects of your life. This process has really encouraged me to change. It’s helped me realize what’s important in life and what’s trivial.

There’s still a long path to be walked, but this process has encouraged me to accept who I am. As a yogi, I am wholly listening to my body and welcoming me with wide-open arms.

The way I see it, I am not getting older. I am becoming more me!

#3 Chemical Free is the Way to Be

I am relieved of no longer being drenched in chemicals that dye the floor of my bathtub. I am relieved that my sheets and especially pillows are no longer being stained by the transfer of freshly dyed hair. I am excited that I am no longer allowing these chemicals to enter my body.

When I accepted my body without chemical adornments and enhancements, I felt liberated and 1,000 times happier.

#4 Challenge the Stigma of White Hair

By the time we’re 50 years old, 50% of the population will have noticeably gray hair. Men tend to gray at a younger age than women. For men, they start at 30 on average and women start at 35. I started my premature graying in my mid-20s.

Gray hair immediately causes people to think I’m much older than I really am. I am 33 years old. I receive comments from people saying, “Wow your hair is so grey, but your face looks much younger,” or “White hair makes you look older than you really are.”

I’m hoping that by accepting who I am becoming, I can create a shift other people’s attitudes about growing older and more importantly, growing more natural. Aging is inevitable and we’re all walking the same path.

What to Expect When You Go Gray

Going gray is a gradual process. I’ve learned that it doesn’t happen overnight. My hair has been growing out white about an inch each month. I now have 10-inch streaks of white hair throughout my head. The first few months were embarrassing and that is perfectly fine to feel that way.

People will say things about your hair and it will be both positive and negative. Fortunately for me, I received mostly positive comments from friends, family and mostly from strangers! I also made connections with other go-grayers in public spaces such as airports, bus stations, while I’m running errands around town. It’s great to connect with others through my transition.

Your hair will look unique to you. Did I mention that my grays look like highlights? People are always complimenting how they’re growing in streaks and not sparsely throughout. I am really digging their natural growth into something that I am proud of and find attractive!

How to Go Gray

1. Let it grow! This is the path I took. I let my grays grow and kinda dealt with it as it grew. When I  wanted to cover my grays, I would wear a hat, headband, or beanie.

2. Allow your hair stylist to help you go gray. They may advise you to do lowlights (giving your grays a highlighted look) or a lift of color from your hair. Beware of the lift as it may cause the dyed hair to turn a tortoise gray color. They may also suggest going for a shorter cut that will allow grays to grow in naturally.

3. Use products that will soften and make dry brittle gray hair manageable. Yes – gray hair lacks cuticle and will look like wiry straw or unkempt if not styled. I was “blessed” with crazy frizzy hair, so when my grays began to come in, I literally looked like a tumbleweed. To avoid the cotton ball head look, here are some products I highly recommend to help with managing the frizz that comes with grey hair:

Related: How to Tame Flyaways and Unruly Hair

4. Join a going grey support group! I’m in several gray hair transition groups. It’s a great resource for going gray and the opportunity to connect with other silver sisters! In these groups, you can ask questions and filter through tips that will help you go gray. The women in the group are very supportive and inspiring. I believe there are some men in the group as well. I highly recommend joining even if you’re not ready to go grey yet.

Here are groups I recommend joining on Facebook:

I wish I would have just let the process happen much sooner. There are no regrets and only lessons learned.

Are you interested in letting your grays grow? If you’re moving along this similar path please let me know! I’d love to follow and hear about your experience!

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  1. Hi! So glad to have come across your post. I am also Asian and am currently going through the process of growing out my grays. Similar to you I am in my 30’s, started going gray in high school and was dying my hair black for the longest but it was just getting unmanageable with each week plus I felt it was beginning to cause more damage. I cannot wait to get to the one-year mark myself although I do have a wedding coming up so hope I will not fall to the pressure again… Thanks for sharing your journey!

  2. Hehe I saw the side shave and thought theres a lady after my own spirit 😉
    At 33 my ex saw one white hair and it was something to take in as I had hoped to stop dying dark ash brown and just love my natural shiny medium ash brown hair. Oh no that plan scuppered….just as I was starting to love me for me au natural! I continued with the dye. Big mistake. Maybe I did so becaise my ex would go on about younger prettier women….insecure men do this and make us insecure. Ive learnt since then 😉
    Skip a few years and on my 40th birthday with only a few unoticable strands of sparkling silver and I thought I would use a demi permanent dye for my party….it would wash out. Nope it leaves a tinge and its slightly red despite being an ‘ash’ colour. Another lesson learnt on this journey.
    Now at 42 I have a few more strands mainly at temples but still not that many which are obvious. The old demi perm dye is much faded to being very close to natural colour after clarifying shampoos but I hardly tend to wash hair, a boar bristle brush is great!
    I am hoping the silver march will take care of the old demi dyed part as some are shining through. But for most part I am happy to watch my 1 year of growth, healthy hair change ….I like it. I dont feel old I feel like a woman, a beautiful experienced and empowered one at that.
    And I havent cut my hair either as youre told to after 40, its fabuously wild and heading down my back. Its gunna be amazing to watch this process. I will just take in nutrition to help keep its health and thickness despite my hypothyroidism.
    Ive also come to an inner love….if men want to bypass me for younger women then thats fine. Im more than good and happy with myself doing my own life on my terms without bullshit….its strange yet cool to have this deep self love but then I see this in other older women , particularly those with long silver hair.
    They have this radiance, an ethereal beauty and strength and I find them absolutely bewitching I cant help it.
    I was hot in my 20s yeah, but I didnt feel like this or have my own je nais se quois going on back then. I prefer me now, I love my life now. Once you have your life as you want it, it becomes less about the perfect relationsip with a man but about the perfect relationship with yourself, and the higher intelligence that created us. Silver hair is just another form of acceptance of the true beauty of our authentic selves.Our wisdom highlights ey.

    Oh and that ex….he still emails after all these years. I told him I hope he finds a nice young lady. Im too much of a woman for him.

    • WOW Thank you for sharing your journey with me! We always learn the hard way eh? I did the side shave to get “rid” of white hair. It would always grow back but I could just reshave it again. I lived with it for 1.5 years and loved my hair being less thick (I have a horse mane btw). I am glad you feel empowered and not old. There’s so much stigma to having white hair naturally. Seems like women like you and me who are sticking to our guns will be the ones to change the world’s attitude! Your ex is definitely feelin the loss. You are deserving of so much more. I’d love to see your hair one day! <3 send me an e-mail if you ever wanna collaborate or chat more! <3

  3. I’m 53 year old Asian and feel a lot of support from reading this. All four of the women in my fam dye their hair (I’m the youngest!!). I generally love my graying hair and interestingly my 13 1/2 year old son asks me why I don’t dye it despite that most women do (I just tell him I don’t want to). LOVED seeing all your pics of your hair!!! Thank you!!!

    • I am glad you found support in this and that you love your grey hair! That is my response when people ask me why I don’t dye my hair too! I just don’t want to! Why does it matter to anyone else? I would love to see your hair! Seeing everyone’s unique gray hair transitions is so inspiring and totally AMAZING!

  4. Joanne Suzara Reply

    I got my hair colored on March 11—a few days before schools here in S.C. closed due to COVID-19. As a high school librarian, I think this quarantine is a sign that I should stop coloring and be natural! I am Filipina and stopped using a blow dryer and flat iron for almost a year now. Since I am embracing my curls, I may as well embrace the gray. I will be 47 in June and am nervous but grateful I found your site. Thank you for your courage!

  5. SO GLAD!!! I came across this post. Thank you.
    Although, I haven’t colored my hair in 2 months, it’s been only a couple of weeks that I have contemplated about going grey. Like most, I don’t want to look older than I really am. At one point, even my best friend discouraged me from going grey. I explained to her how often I would color my hair, the condition of my scalp, and how thinning my hair is, and I just want to be chemical free. Her attitude quickly changed and became supportive. I am 43 and found my first grey at 18. It slowly increased then at 30, Bam! Yes, I had plucked them. Lol. I know my greys has more to do with genetics than age because unlike my best friend, who only have 20 strands of grey, my whole head is covered. I’m going to be honest, another reason why I contemplate going grey is because I don’t know if it was complement my skin tone. I am Lao (Asian decent) but I am darker than most. I have seen pictures of fair-skinned Asians with grey and it looks good on them.I plan on following through and just letting it grow out so we shall see with me. Scary process but I am going to try.

  6. Love your story and that you are embracing the real you. I have dyed my hair for the last decade aftery son was born. 41 and almost a year without dying my hair. It is so freeing and celebrating myself everyday. I have silver highlights throughout my hair. I had my hair in a bob, and my hair is almost done transitioning. I have a lot of positive people in my life to support my decision. My hair is more healthy and stronger than ever before. I can’t wait to see how the end result look is like.

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